Over the past few weeks, I've noticed a couple disturbing trends on social media regarding feminism.
A couple weeks ago, it seemed to me that every time I went on Twitter, there would a slew of articles entitled things like "Taylor Swift isn't Actually a Feminist", "What Emma Stone Said that Makes Her Not a Real Feminist" and "Shailene Woodley Joins The Ranks of Female Celebrities Who Don't Understand Feminism."
What are you doing?!
Feminism is the belief in the equality of all sexes. That's it. If you believe that all sexes should be equal, then you are a feminist. There is no varying degrees of how feminist you are. One person isn't a "better" feminist than another person. That is literally going against everything feminism stands for--implying that one individual is better and deserves more respect than another.
And possibly the most disturbing part of all of this is that all of these articles were written by and were being shared by women.
Ladies, why do we do this to each other? We're all familiar with the movie "Mean Girls" and think it's hilarious and Tina Fey's writing is brilliant. But past the great one-liners lies a satirical social commentary. The thing is, we live in a Mean Girls society. Women are constantly bringing other women down, whether it's intentional or not. Most of the time, we don't even realize we're doing it. It's become so ingrained in us to criticize the women around us that we do it all day long.
This needs to stop. All sexes deserve to be treated equally and deserve to be treated with the same amount of respect; and yet, we're not respecting each other as women.
Another instance of women attacking other women happened yesterday when I went on Facebook.
We all pretend like we don't take the quizzes that pop up on our news feeds, but let's be real, we really do want to know what Game of Thrones character we'd be.
A quiz popped up yesterday that was called: "How Bitchy Are You?" It was exploding over my Facebook feed and only women were posting it. They were proud that they were only 30% bitchy, one of my friends even commenting, "See, I'm not that bad."
And this broke my heart. This is perpetuating a word that provides women with a negative connotation for being assertive and standing up for their beliefs. There is no male counterpart to this word. We can call a man a "bitch", but that is just an insult to him, implying that he has undesirable female characteristics.
It's easy to go through every day, not realizing that we're bringing our own selves down; it's become a habit. But we need to become conscious of our actions and thoughts. Instead of unintentionally bringing each other down, we need to bring each other up. We need to show and tell each other on a regular basis that we are strong and powerful and that everyone deserves the same rights as everyone else; don't take those rights away from yourself.
Here are some great examples of women lifting each other up: